What to say when you talk to yourself............

Since negative Self Talk can be so devastating and so many men struggle with this phenomenon I thought it might be good to offer some Truth to combat the lies. Below are several types of negative self talk to help in identifying your particular type. The enemy wants to deceive you in any of the following areas and cripple you by believing his lies.

  He wants us to feel inferior, inadequate or insecure
  He wants you to feel worthless or without value
  He wants you to be paralyzed by what you feel others think of you.

You might call this developing positive Self Talk. This is not the “pop Psychology” type “positive.” This is the Positive Self Talk that comes from understanding our true identity in Christ. This identity for the believer of course, begins at The Cross...at the moment of salvation. Unfortunately however, many are in reality identified with Christ but, are still believing the lies of the deceiver. We are told in scripture that it is The Truth that sets us free.

John 8:31-32
“So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed in him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, 32 and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” ESV
So, if we are to overcome the lies and enjoy the freedom of Positive Self Talk, we will need to abide in His word.

Here are some suggestions regarding “what to say when you talk to yourself”.......

Ephesians. 1:5          I have been adopted as God's child.
Romans. 8:35ff        I cannot be separated from the love of God.
Colossians.3:3         I am hidden with Christ in God.
John 1:12                 I am God's child.
Ephesians. 2:6         I am seated with Christ in the heavenly realm.
Ephesians. 2:10       I am God's workmanship.
Philippians 4:13       I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

These verses are only a small part of the Truth of God regarding our identity in Christ. I hope they will be enough to stir your interest in digging into the scripture to discover the depths of our true identity.
You might want to consider reading  the following books:

Classic Christianity by Bob George
Handbook to Happiness by Charles Solomon

                                            

What did I just say to myself?

Did you know we are talking to ourselves all the time. No, it is not out loud, but it is there none the less. It is like a faint buzz just below our level of consciousness most of the time.....like running beneath the radar. At other times however, it seems to explode like someone screaming in our ear. This is why it is so important for us to  acknowledge it’s reality. The next step is to begin identifying it. It is most noticeable when we feel we have failed at something, screwed up “again” or failed at something “again”. There are many triggers for it and we don’t all experience them the same way. This phenomenon is called “Self Talk” and is very Real.  For those who are unaware, it can be the source of tons of Grief in your life.  In the next post or two we will discuss this further. Self Talk can also be Positive and is actually a Great friend when it is Positive.

Below are some tips to help in identifying our unique “Self Talk”.

  Stop! ..... Listen! What are you saying to yourself? The best time to listen may be when you feel you have just screwed something up “again” or failed at something “again”.  

 Is this the first time you have been aware of if? Realizing that it is happening is a huge step.

 What did you say to yourself? It is important to pay attention to what you are saying.

 Was it positive or negative?

The vast majority of self talk is negative. For this reason, can be one of our greatest enemies. It is part of a greater deception we will uncover and discuss in a later post.

Looking forward to seeing you next week and meanwhile....
“What are you saying to yourself”?

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