Friday, December 9, 2011

I went to start a fight..............

Fifty years ago on Sunday December 11 we ran away to Conyers Georgia to get married. (the picture is actually my JR, SR picture from the following May.) The journey however actually began on August 25, 1961. I went to a teen hangout to start a fight. Lets just say I was not what you would call a “fine young man” though part of that was true, I was young. Something went terribly wrong with “my plan”. I saw a girl across the dance floor and told a guy I was with I had to meet her and would be “going steady with her in a week”.  (Just saw Denis Sweat at my school reunion last October. First time since that night.) I walked up to the blonde doll and asked with my best “pitch” “You wanna dance?” She blew me off not once but twice! It was at that point I became more determined......she told me NO! That’s not happening. I returned with my best stuff and pressed the issue.....I’am in! Yep, she danced! The conversation began with exchanging names, school, ages etc. It was at that point I realized it could be a very short relationship. I ask her age and she said it was her 18th birthday. In response to her question regarding my age, I replied, “I am 19”. Several weeks later standing outside a Pool Room, it’s called Billiards today. I let the hammer down. You must decide, me or him...that’s the other guy. She decided on me then and there. Another several weeks on November 22, it was  my birthday. That is when the truth came out. I was not 20, on my birthday but 16. That of course means I was 15 when we met. I knew it would be a really short conversation if I had said 15 so, “I lied a little”..

It was only a few weeks later that we ran away to Conyers to get married. It has been an adventure to say the least. It was seven years before we came to Christ. I will just say those were very interesting years. Then Jesus came and it has been different ever since. The picture is not from the wedding. There are no pictures at a $10.00 wedding. It is from my junior Senior Prom...yep, my Junior Senior! Maybe we will write a book some day and fill in all the blanks.

For now, let me just say we are still dancing!!!!!

Read some things I am learning after Fifty years......

 Some things I am learning after Fifty Years of Marriage......
 Our Anniversary is actually Sunday December 11. However, I will not be playing with my Blog or Face Book that day. Thanks for visiting now!

It is not about me:
Marriage is a “Team” Sport. If the “Team” doesn’t win, nobody wins

Mary is my sister before she is my wife:
Sounds strange I know but, “think”. Now, that means that every thing Jesus expects of us toward other Believers, He expects toward our Mate. That makes Marriage a great place to “practice” the Christian Life.

If you both always agree on everything, one of you is not necessary:
God gave us the capacity to think, reason and choose. He also gave us different likes and dislikes. So, there are times when our individuality should and will show up. Two people who always agree is a “Sick” relationship. Scripture says we become one....not which one?

Love covers a multitude of sin....
Pure agape love just causes one to overlook some things just because you love the other party.

Love keeps no records or lists:
The greatest paradigm shift for most people who experience our Two_Day Training is that they really never understood forgiveness.

Learning to love like Christ loved the church is impossible in the "natural or flesh":
What I have discovered about this is I just need to “Stoppit”. I can’t do it but, Christ who is my Life will do it through me if I allow Him to.

You must keep your eye on the ball:
Keeping your eye on “the ball” or maintaining your focus and connection prevents “turnovers” .....Yep, just like in football. Bring your best to the game and don’t be distracted by what may be going on the sidelines or in the stands.

Forgiveness is not for me:
Most people think forgiving is giving the other a “free pass”. NOT SO, forgiveness is for you. It puts you in a position to restore, be restored.

Leadership is a privilege and a responsibility:
Husbanding is perhaps the greatest responsibility in the world.

The most difficult person to lead is Me:
Keeping my eye on the ball with my relationship with Jesus is the first step...

Discipleship begins at home:
First your wife and then your kids....

The ground is level at the foot of the cross  I Peter 3:7:
There are no “Big shots” in Marriage. We are each new creations IN Christ. Righteous, Holy and Blameless IN Him. 

There is so much more to say and so little space to say it..........