Sunday, February 20, 2011

Are you an Alpha Male.......

The term Alpha Male has different meanings to different people or groups. For the sake of our conversation and context “Alpha Male” represents the man who is or aspires to nurture and develop the leader in him. The characteristics we are going to talk about today are not meant to be all inclusive but simply some food for thought. For some of you they will seem a “no-brainer” but for others of you they may seem unattainable. The “take away” from this post is simply to approach life with your personal best as a man, as a son, a husband, a leader or whatever your current role in life happens to be. 

So what are some of those characteristics or traits we might aspire to make part of our lives? I will mention only four here and they are Not in order of importance. In fact I would say that the order of importance will surface for you as you process them and look in “your personal mirror” related to each one. Maybe it would be helpful for you to prioritize them and work on them as you see need in your own life.

 He values others:
One of his important traits is that he values and respects others, men and women alike. He will recognize your achievements and successes. He will acknowledge your input in conversation, relationship or business. While he may at times appear aloof or uninterested, he is none the less focused and listening.....he hears you. In short, it’s just not all about him!

 He speaks with confidence:
While many struggle to speak, pray etc in a group, to another male they may feel threatened by or even to his mate (before whom he may feel inadequate) the Alpha Male exudes confidence. He speaks succinctly, deliberately. He knows he will be heard.

 He is not defensive:
Because he is confident and comfortable in his own skin, he feels no need to vie for the approval of others or to defend his words or actions. When questioned he will answer wisely and softly.

 In a leadership vacuum, he will fill it:
Some men walk into a room filled with people or even a relationship and look around to find the “Alpha Person” and immediately fall in line to follow. They sometimes feel insecure and inadequate when in a situation with a leadership vacuum. Not so with the Alpha. When he enters the room, he becomes one of the leaders if not the leader. He may even have people think he is “The Leader” or address him as though he were even when he is not. He just has presence.

So, the “take away” from this post is simply to approach life with your personal best as a man, as a son, a husband, a leader or whatever your current role in life happens to be. 

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